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My Relationship with Others

Loving kids well under Pressure - Pt 2
They’re His children before they’re yours. You’re His child before you’re their parent. Please Him first. Then please your spouse and kids. He calls you to Himself before He calls you to a mission.
 Falling in Like all over Again  Part 4
Only unconditional love can restore a breach. A love I give even if my ‘conditions’ aren’t met. God loves this way and calls me to, yet I can’t do so if I feel unloved. So I need God to love like God.
Loving kids well in stressful times - Pt 1
Kids must be safe and feel safe.  But never at the expense of feeling loved. I measure me by what I accomplish. Kids measure me by how I love. Yes, we need their attention but they need ours more.
 Falling in Like all over Again  Part 3
Warning signs of drifting apart: When you look to  your spouse for needs only God can meet. When you lose your awe. When desires control you and  love feels like a duty. When you forget your friend.
Falling in Like all over Again   Part 5
If any trait can make me more likable or change your view of me, it’s genuine kindness. Looking for ways to love you brings a far greater joy than  looking for love from you.  I find joy in your joy.
Falling in Like all over Again  Part 2 
Drifting apart? Identify when we began drifting and why. We drift if I focus on your faults. Or if I lose touch with your heart. If I say I love you but my choices say otherwise. If love is a duty. 
Falling in Like all over Again  Part 1
What do you do if you and your mate drift apart? Discern where things are at now. Recall the early years. We avoid doing so for fear it’ll raise hopes. But the God of hope reminds us, hoping it does.
The sweet gift of your total Attention
Few gifts say ‘I love you’ like the gift of attention.  Attention matters! Why? Friendships matter. So the level of attention I give or withhold affects my friendships. Including the one I have with God.     
The Mirror between Us
I carry a mirror inside my head. And look at it far more than I should. Downside is: I can’t see God, you or the beauty all around me.  All I see is me. 
It's like taking pics of myself at a scenic overlook.

Home isn't Home without You - Part 1
After a son left for college, Dad said 'I have plenty of everything, except Mike and in parental math, 5 minus 1 doesn’t equal plenty.’ God feels this too. There is a place in His heart that only you can fill.
But I need Love with Skin On - Part 3
How I see God shapes how I grieve. If I think He took my love, I can't bring Him my hurt. And He understands. He never says "I should be enough" or 'Faith doesn't grieve'. No! He grieves with me. 
Home isn't Home without You - Part 2
If a truth is true for all of us, it's no less true for each of us. If He so loved the world, He so loves you. As much as He loves His Son which is a lot! But can He love each of us uniquely? Ask a Mom
But I need Love with Skin On - Part 2
If the loss of love breaks your heart, don’t hide it or minimize your loss. God doesn’t. Nor does He try to fill their place.  No one can.  Not even God. But He'll fill His place. Beside you. If you let Him.
The Sweet Joy of being Liked - Part 1
Why do I lack confidence and question my worth? Perhaps I lack confidence because I question my worth. Yet God doesn’t. He feels I'm worth dying for. What He does question is my self-judgment.
But I need Love with Skin On - Part 1
I'm glad God loves me.  But I also want love with skin on! This want can eclipse my desire for God. Yet He made us for love and said it isn't good for man to be alone. So He hurts for us when we are.
The Sweet Joy of being Liked - Part 2
Is my view of me true of me? Is it who God sees? I want to see the me I am. Yet I tend to see the me I think you see. And rarely is it good. So I dream up a me I'd like to be. And hope it'll be a me you like.










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